First off, I just want to send out another HUGE thank you to all our neighbors, friends, and family who have supported us and kept us afloat these last 6 days. I am crying while I am writing this because I just read through all of your comments and am so grateful that so many of you care for Dad so much. I know that with so much love, prayers, and positive energy flowing towards Dad he will get better in time. I just hate time!! Forgive us (Mom, Erin, and Jamie) if we seem out of it or irritable we are moving out of that numb faze to the "how can I handle this" faze.
Well, day 6 brings news that Dad will soon be moved out of the NCCU to a different department. There they will continue to monitor and treat him. They are moving him out of the NCCU because he is no longer in critical condition but he is not anywhere near better yet. The other sad, sad news is if he does not respond then after a couple weeks he will need to be moved to a nursing home. Oh, I can't imagine Dad in a nursing home... The reason he will be moved to a nursing home is because he is not responding and cannot participate in physical therapy. I'm just praying that the next couple weeks will show some response from Dad.
On his progress today the Physical Therapist tried to get Dad to stand again today. Unfortunately, he would not and barely sat up. He would slump down and not hold up his weight. The nurse did feel that this could be due to his medication. The nurses are trying to get Dad's days and nights correct. So they are giving him less pain meds during the day to keep him awake (but he is severely uncomfortable) and then sleep meds at night. Hopefully tomorrow he won't be too drugged so that he can participate in his physical therapy.
This evening Matt (my husband) and I went to the hospital. Dad had his eyes open quite a bit and was very restless. Still no recognition of us is showing in his eyes but he is looking! To me Dad's responses seem delayed for everything. It's as if he is swimming and he needs to swim through the haze to respond. Not that I'm a nurse but I swear some of his delayed hand squeezes or face scrunches are to a question asked a few minutes prior. For instance, if any of you can remember, whenever Dad was asked something he didn't agree with or thought was funny or he was concerned about he would scrunch up his eyes and mouth. So I will ask him something or tell him something and a few minutes later or sometimes right after he will scrunch up his face. Sometimes I know it is because the pain, but others I would swear are responses to questions.
Another plus is that Dad was starting to mumble tonight. One time he said "ow" the others were not understandable. It was just different sounds, but different is good, right? The doctors and nurses weren't as hyped as I was. But then his mumbles made me a little worried because they were just that, mumbles, which really made him sound like he is truly not mentally there.
Also as Matt was talking to Dad he mentioned Dad's dogs names, Angelo and Crowja. At the mention of the names he lifted up his eyebrows. This is the first time he has done this! I don't want to give myself a false sense of hope but all I have to hold onto is hope. So I look for the positive in all Dad does. The doctors like to tell us that to truly know if his mind is getting better is if he can repeat things or do things on command. I think he is trying to communicate through Jim responses the doctors don't know about!
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I can't see Jim in a nursing home either. A lot of healing in his brain can happen in two weeks. If they can get him off the pain medications I am sure that will help with his recovery as well. Even a little progress is still progress. It indicates that he is on the mend. Doctors don't know your dad the way you know him. They don't know things he does that might actually be significant because they don't know his idiosyncracies (sp). You have a spiritual connection with him that they don't have. There are just times when we know things about our loved ones that the professionals can't fathom. Hope is a lot to have. It can make the difference between getting through something and not getting through it. I like to think that God's grace is carried in hope and in love and in faith.
ReplyDeleteHang in there. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Mary Looser
Amen, Jamie. The doctors are only there for short periods of time. They don't know the your Dad. They can't inspire your Dad to respond. Family knows more about the mental state of a loved one than anyone in a institutional setting can.
ReplyDeleteMy heart is with you and your dear family.
Having been in a similar but different situation when you were waiting for your loved one to show signs of progress I testify that with your hope, your LOVE, and all of our prayers that MIRACLES HAPPEN! I love your mom and dad as very special friends and as their team at Coldwell Banker we are pulling all of our positive energy and love together and sending it your way. "KEEP HOPE"
ReplyDeleteLove, Jill allsop
I have been following your blog ever since Jim's accident. Jeff Pomeroy called to let me know . Jim and I have been friends since 1970. I hope ever-so-much that he will recover. He has always been strong. I would like to know when it would be suitable to visit him and if there is anything else I might do to help!
ReplyDeleteWe consider it a privilege to work with Jim & Kim at Coldwell Banker.Jill Allsop stated that MIRACLES HAPPEN ~ With the Blessings & prayers that have been offered on Jim's behalf we know MIRACLES WILL HAPPEN. Why certain things happen to people we love is hard to understand. But we testify to all of you that our Heavenly Father loves Jim and will never leave his side! With the love of his family,Kim & all of us Jim will draw strength and heal. Jim has survived Real Estate so we know that he is tough! You are all in our prayers each day ~ please give Sweet Kim & Jim hugs for us. Much love, Teresa & Bill Farley
ReplyDeleteWow, thank you all! With tonights new post I am feeling very down, but all your inspirational words have truely put me back into a positive mind frame. On days like these it is so easy to get wrapped up in all the horrible outcomes that "might" happen. I know you are all right. And I know that with all of you praying for Dad he will get better. Keep those comments coming. It totally keeps me going. I love all of you.
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